lessons learned during my third year of blogging

I started this blog three years ago on October 20, 2009. I don’t pretend to know everything about blogging – or on anything other than on how to be a #crazydoglady. That said, I feel confident on sharing the following lessons learned after writing 567 posts, sending more than 16,000 tweets, planning countless blogger meetups and still not knowing the best way to blog on a Macbook. 

Your blog will be different than it was on Day One. Because you are different than you were on Day One. And way different than in your LiveJournal days where it all really started.

Embrace the social media platforms and tools that work best for you. You don’t have to be back on MySpace just because Justin Timberlake said you should. It’s okay if you’re too longwinded for 140 characters on Twitter.  You don’t need a Facebook fan page if the only person who “like” your page is your mom. Use what fits your style of communication.

But one you should use: Fill your Google Reader to the brim with blogs of every type imaginable: local blogs, food blogs, fitness blogs, dog blogs, nonsense blogs. Blogs about nothing, blogs about something, blog about everything. Take in as much as you can from each of them as you’ll never know where you’ll get what you need.

But don’t be upset if you don’t get around to reading every post in your Reader. Learn to speed read, look for the lessons (usually in bold or italics) and retain what’s important.

Learn to say “no”.  Not every pitch has to be replied to with an affirmative, not every invitation has to be accepted.  As Wayne Dyer said, “be open to everything and attached to nothing.”

Say “yes” to the important things. Meeting another blogger in real life (*insert shameless Ohio Blogging Association plug here*). Writing a guest post on a topic you love. Taking the time to write a lengthy comment on a post that spoke to you.

Learn to ask for – and to accept – help. Behind your keyboard. At your job. On your mat. For the sake of your health and well being.

Save the drama for your mama – because mine doesn’t want it either. There’s scientific proof that the people that say they don’t want the drama are the ones usually creating it.

Invest in a thick skin. Not everyone is going to be your cheerleader. Not everyone is going to be polite. Not everyone is going to give you a RT, or a positive comment or even read your blog at all. “Let them say what they want, just keep doing you.”

At some point, you will want to close down shop. You will question your voice, your message, your intention, your authenticity. Others will question your purpose, your points, your validity. Before you hit “delete”, sit on it for a week. Give it time to pass.

Clarity will come. That clearness, that brightness that you seek will find you – if you allow for a absence of complication and an acceptance of what the present moment holds.

Thank you. Thank you for reading for three years. Thank you for all the kind comments. Thank you for all the blog love. I’m grateful to be here.

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  1. Holly says:

    The times I want to stop or say “screw it why am I doing this?” … then I wait a week or so. And before you know it I’m eager to post again. Works every time… so far.

  2. Jack Sh*t says:

    Blogging has taught me some valuable lessons, such as… ummmm… well… I thought I jotted down a list of valuable lessons somewhere… HAS ANYONE SEEN A NOTE TITLED “VALUABLE LESSONS LEARNED FROM BLOGGING” AROUND HERE?… dammit! Well, I’m pretty sure that blogging as taught me some valuable lessons, but I guess you’re just gonna have to take my word for it.

  3. Julie says:

    Congrats on 3 years! Excellent lessons learned! Oh the many times I wanted to quit… That’s a good tip about waiting a week! 🙂

  4. Heather says:

    My favorite thing about your blog is that it’s real, open, and honest. Those are my most favorite posts.
    Keep doing what you’re doing, Alicia. Congrats on the 3 years!

  5. Lee says:

    Congrats on 3 years! I totally agree on the “don’t try to read everything in your reader.” I mark all as read all the time. Otherwise, I get totally overwhelmed and it becomes not so enjoyable.

    I use Mars Edit for a mac. I like it fine. Have you tried it? I think it’s like $30 but there’s a free trial.

  6. Tina @ Best Body Fitness says:

    All of these are SO true! And I’m so glad you mentioned having times you want to just toss it all in the trash and stop. I have had many moments like that, but always know how much blogging has added to my life so stick with it. So glad I have because it’s given me great friendships (like you!) and other opportunies and passions. Great post!

  7. Jen @ Why CLE? says:

    So, it took me way too long to get around to commenting on this lovely post. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and being my Fairy Blog-mother. Here’s to lots more years of PIP!

  8. jobo says:

    Congrats on 3 years my friend! I LOVE these universal truths about blogging. So true. I have also done the should I blog anymore thing and just can’t close it up. I do love it, even if I have less time for it. Completely agree on not feeling a slave to reading every single post either, look for those that will resonate most, is the way I look at it! XO!

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  10. Carrie @ Season It Already! says:

    I’m new to blogging and know that I have a lot to learn… some that I can admit that I don’t even want to learn! For example, the thought of a google reader (although I have one) overwhelms me. It’s just another thing to check. I’d rather get an email in my inbox if there is a new post and can decide if I want to read, delete, or save. If a blog doesn’t give me that option, I (sadly) just don’t follow it.

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